Alarming Rate of Divorce is a Source of Concern

You can't go into marital relationship simply because you want to satisfy your sexual needs or that you are financially capable. No! There's more to that brothers.

You can't just get married to someone's daughter and divorce her for trivial reasons. You need to be religiously, physically, emotionally, psychologically, economically, morally and socially upright to be able to understand the nitty gritty of marital affairs. Someone bereft of these factors (above) will of course be a disaster not only to the girl/wife he married to, but also to the entire family.

Before you get married bro, go and seek wise and honest counsel from your uncles, neighbors, father's friends, teachers, ulamas, respectful members of the society, etc. These set of people can coach you on how best to live a peaceful and exemplary life style according to the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet (SAW) and our most cherished culture, norms and values.

Many are not aware that marriage is a contract under the Islamic law and the couples are expected to fulfill certain obligations, make commitments and sacrifices to make it work.

My brother you have no license whatsoever to maltreat your wife, her children, family or friends. You must accord her all the respect she deserves and never relent in discharging your responsibilities according to the best of your ability.

Remember, the same way you treat someone's daughter/sister is the same way yours will be treated. NOT DOUBT ABOUT THAT. You have no option than to become good bro.

For God's sake look at the number of young girls who by sheer coincidence are now widows. And the one who divorced her will be given another girl (as a new wife) without referring to the real reasons why he divorced his wife.

The rate of divorce in our society is not only painful but also terrible and unimaginable. The earlier the parents, elders of the society, religious institutions, NGOs, community leaders, etc rise up to these challenges the better.

WE CAN'T FEIGN IGNORANCE TO WHAT ALMOST EVERY HOUSEHOLD IS CRYING FOR.

Tasiu Sanusi Saulawa